Lady Doctors are the main assets of our society; because they play vital role in building our society and growing the healthy environment, because of the cultural values and as Islamic state mostly people prefer lady doctors for their medical issues. To be a lady doctor is not as easy as people think, life time study, taking pressure of work, keeping balance in job and family responsibilities.
Although this is a noble profession throughout world, but since few years it has become course for our society ruining life of many people surrounding the lady doctors and they themselves are also suffering from severe mental torture and unable to provide their skills to our society, which is causing the huge burden on government budget. Girls are more intelligent and potent they secure higher scores in MDCAT and they get more medical seats in government colleges but later in life they are themselves facing a lot of problems because of our cultural values, social issues and educational difference between the partners ruin their life and they are unable to provide their most of skills which are beneficial for our society.
Firstly cultural values of Pakistan has impacted the lady doctors life, early marriages of lady doctors causes barrier or a big gap in their medical education life and they are later on engaged in children either due to emotional blackmailing our some tortures from their in-laws side they either leave their medical life and become house wife or they have big gaps in their medical education. They suffer from depression and mental pressure because once they meet casually any of their university friends or see any social media status they have achieved a good position abroad or any good hospital; because of emotional attachment with their kids and respect of their parents they keep on fighting with their mental depression silently. On other side if lady doctor is doing post-graduation and not focusing on early marriage; although she will achieve her life professional goals but later on late marriage consequences will again ruin her life and she will be suffering from unwanted pressure of our society. Non cooperative in-laws have become curse for our lady doctors, they are too happy to get lady doctor for their sons but they actually don’t know how to support them morally, emotionally and financially too. YES?!!!! FINANCIALLY TOO, because in the training time of post-graduation they are given very less pay or sometimes unpaid to get training in this crucial time in-laws don’t support them to progress but they indirectly or directly make them think that they should leave further studies and continue their job to support their family and kids. Some lady doctors leave medical carrier because of their kids, because no one look after their kids some leave kids at DAYCARES to continue their job or studies and some are too much emotionally broken when they see their kids health , growth and education is compromised so they ultimately leave the job to look after their kids. Lady doctors are targeted to slender their MBBS degree and their education in front of those ladies SO CALLED IN-LAWS who can’t provide anything to this society, they have never earned a single penny and don’t even understand how lady doctor earns. Jealousy, male-dominant society and lack of education of our society have ruined the life of most talented ladies and who are actual cream of our society.
Islam has given freedom for education, but in our Islamic state most of the people creates Islamic bias for most of lady doctors in order to make them weak and create barriers in their education by the name of Islam. Because of religious mindset lady doctors are unable to select their medical specialty according to their choice. By selecting only gynecology field by most of lady doctors have created too much saturation in one field and other specialties are lacking skilled lady doctors which is again creating burden for our society.
Personal life of many lady doctors are ruined, because of 12-24 hours duty, stress and exams anxiety creating risk factor for them for their health and they are involved in multiple stress related diseases like irritable bowel disease, pre-menstrual syndrome etc. they are over stressed by post-graduation training and job pressure that they over react on everything which create a lot of emotional barriers between their married life and communication gap between kids and usually kids of lady doctors are more attach with their fathers. Because of over stressed they are unable to give love, care to their partners in this way many lady doctors suffered from divorce, domestic violence and separation which make them emotionally weak and they still are supporting this society by carrying broken hearts.
Lady Doctors have become ATM machine for most of the males of our society who don’t want to earn and they want shortcuts that someone else should earn for them. Most of lady doctors have very good pay and theirs ATM cards are in their husband pockets, even by earning in lac they are still beggar’s front of their husbands demanding their own money from them and this is the actual reality of many people marrying lady doctors. Mostly they are targeted by love to get them marry and ruin their life and financially become dependent on women. Most of our males save their own earnings and they use lady doctor’s income to utilize in home expenses and at the end they leave them with zero balance and they become milliners. However this is the sad reality of our society. Once they demand their money they are threatened by divorce, taking away kids, false allegations of extra marital affairs and domestic violence.
Children are highly affected of lady doctors as since they are born they are separated by their mothers in short period of maternity leave of 40days to 3 months. They either grow in daycares with poor facilities which impact their kids’ mentality for long term; they suffer from emotional anxiety because kids usually don’t understand that their mothers are doctors. Child health is also affected as they don’t get timely fresh food. Children are usually weak nobody at home take cares for them they are early trained by their mothers to do their small responsibilities like eating with spoon, toilet trained and they leave for school even at the age of 2 years when they are unable to talk but they know their mothers are too busy to care for them.
In this dark world some people are shinning to enlighten the paths of lady doctors to grow them and these lights are in the form of good FATHER, GOOD HUSBAND, and GOOD IN-LAWS. Not all husbands and in-laws are wrong but there are some good one also who are not even well-educated but they know actually the value of lady doctors. My husband is one of that lights that brighten my path with love, care and support. But the sad reality can’t be denied of this society and lady doctor’s life in Pakistan.
